5 ways to replace the lies we believe with truth. Our beliefs influence our attitudes, choices, behavior, expectations, and the stories we tell our self. So, let's replace the lies we believe with truth. God's truth. For years I tried to appear like Mary Poppins. "Practically ... Read More
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12 Ways That Misinterpreting Events Causes Shame
Once we feel the emotions of shame, what causes us to misinterpret the event and believe a lie about our identity? Here are 12 perfectly normal reasons we blame our self. Hint: we are trying to make sense of what's happening. This is post 6 in a series on shame. We as humans try ... Read More
The Symptoms of Shame and the 4 Ways It Makes You Feel
To deal with shame and the lies it is telling us, learn the 4 ways that shame makes us feel. This is post 5 in a series on shame. Shame. It's an uncomfortable feeling we try to avoid. It's also a perfectly natural and normal emotion for us to experience. Remember: ... Read More
Environments Where Shame Thrives
Shame thrives in some environments more than others. Learn which 11 environments help shame flourish. But how none are the cause of shame. This is post 4 in a series on shame. Shame itself is not bad or evil. Shame is just another emotion we feel, like anger, sadness, happiness, ... Read More
How the Lies of Shame Cause Us to Think We Are the Defective Ones
The lies of shame tell us we are the defective ones, but truth breaks the lies of shame we believe about our self. This is post 3 in a series on shame. Lisa was going to surprise her mother by getting herself ready for church all by herself. She picked out a dress. One she could ... Read More
There is No Shame in Feeling Shame
There is no shame in feeling shame; it's just another human emotion, like anger or happiness. Shame is a warning flag that something needs dealing with. This is post 2 in a series on shame. In fifth grade I had one pair of pants. I wish they had been blue. Even brown or tan. A ... Read More
You Are Not Meant to Live in Shame
You are not meant to live in shame. You can feel worthy and loved. This is post 1 in a series on shame. Shame, this feeling of being unworthy of love, to dirty for people to want to be around us, not good enough to belong, is something we have all felt. Maybe someone yells ... Read More
Sock Solutions that Bedazzle
My husband wanders into the kitchen. "Notice anything?" he asks. I glance up from the myriad of morning chores I am multi-tasking. He is dressed for work. Pants belted. Fly zippered. Dress shirt buttoned. Hair combed. Nothing seems amiss. Nothing pops out, screaming for attention. "Not a ... Read More