Shame does not tell us the truth. It does not portray reality. Instead, shame lies to us and makes us feel bad. The emotion or feeling of shame, that we all feel when embarrassed, humiliated, mortified, and disgraced, is a perfectly normal emotion to feel (like fear, anger, or joy). And there is no shame in feeling the emotions of shame. It is neither a good or bad emotion. It is just trying to tell us something. If we deal with the emotion, we can dissipate it and release it. If we don’t, it can grow and become a shameful secret we carry around for years, trying to hide it from others. The choice is ours. But please know there is no shame in feeling the emotions of shame.
Go deeper, read There is No Shame in Feeling Shame, post 2 and How the Lies of Shame Cause Us to Think We Are the Defective Ones, post 3.
