Shame thrives in some environments more than others. Learn which 11 environments help shame flourish. But how none are the cause of shame. Shame itself is not bad or evil. Shame is just another emotion we feel, like anger, sadness, happiness, or fear. It is a normal human emotion ... Read More
Things to Remember
How the Lies of Shame Cause Us to Think We Are the Defective Ones
The lies of shame tell us we are the defective ones, but truth breaks the lies of shame we believe about our self. Lisa was going to surprise her mother by getting herself ready for church all by herself. She picked out a dress. One she could button up herself. One with bright ... Read More
There is No Shame in Feeling Shame
There is no shame in feeling shame; it's just another human emotion, like anger or happiness. Shame is a warning flag that something needs dealing with. In fifth grade I had one pair of pants. I wish they had been blue. Even brown or tan. A basic color to re-wear again and again. ... Read More
You Are Not Meant to Live in Shame
You are not meant to live in shame. You can feel worthy and loved. Shame, this feeling of being unworthy of love, to dirty for people to want to be around us, not good enough to belong, is something we have all felt. Maybe someone yells hurtful and unkind things, blaming us and ... Read More
Sock Solutions that Bedazzle
My husband wanders into the kitchen. "Notice anything?" he asks. I glance up from the myriad of morning chores I am multi-tasking. He is dressed for work. Pants belted. Fly zippered. Dress shirt buttoned. Hair combed. Nothing seems amiss. Nothing pops out, screaming for attention. "Not a ... Read More
Remembering the Most Important Part of the Story: 7 Ways Christmas and Telling a Joke Are Alike
Both Christmas and telling a joke need to focus on the most important part of the story. Otherwise they fall a little flat. Nothing kills a joke faster than when you leave a key ingredient out of the story. If you don't set up the joke correctly, the punch line falls rather ... Read More
Adjusting Expectations So Your Soul Can Breathe
Adjusting our expectations creates less stress for us and others, allowing us to enjoy life more fully. I was newly married and hosting my first small dinner party. I was excited, nervous, and had big plans for the night. There would be an appetizer, main dish, and dessert. ... Read More
There’s Gotta Be Some Sort of Mistake: How Learning About Yourself is an Onging Process
Because we are multifacated, learning about yourself is an ongoing process. Turns out some mistakes help you learn about yourself in a good way. I am not an early morning person. Never have been. Probably never will be. My husband, who jumps out of bed singing the praises ... Read More
