Shame affects our identity by telling lies about who we are. To combat shame we need to know our true identity. Who we are. Where we come from. Our purpose. Our worth. This is post 8 in a series on shame. I glanced at my husband's bed. He was gone. Everyone was up but me. I ... Read More
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Shame Versus Guilt: What’s the Big Difference?
Guilt and shame may look like cousins, but they have a lot of big differences. Learn how these two differ and the remedy for each. This is post 7 in a series on shame. Guilt and shame. I used to think they were practically the same. Maybe cousins who looked a lot alike. Maybe ... Read More
How to Replace the World’s Lies With God’s Truth
5 ways to replace the lies we believe with truth. Our beliefs influence our attitudes, choices, behavior, expectations, and the stories we tell our self. So, let's replace the lies we believe with truth. God's truth. For years I tried to appear like Mary Poppins. "Practically ... Read More
12 Ways That Misinterpreting Events Causes Shame
Once we feel the emotions of shame, what causes us to misinterpret the event and believe a lie about our identity? Here are 12 perfectly normal reasons we blame our self. Hint: we are trying to make sense of what's happening. This is post 6 in a series on shame. We as humans try ... Read More
The Symptoms of Shame and the 4 Ways It Makes You Feel
To deal with shame and the lies it is telling us, learn the 4 ways that shame makes us feel. This is post 5 in a series on shame. Shame. It's an uncomfortable feeling we try to avoid. It's also a perfectly natural and normal emotion for us to experience. Remember: Shame ... Read More
Environments Where Shame Thrives
Shame thrives in some environments more than others. Learn which 11 environments help shame flourish. But how none are the cause of shame. This is post 4 in a series on shame. Shame itself is not bad or evil. Shame is just another emotion we feel, like anger, sadness, happiness, ... Read More
How the Lies of Shame Cause Us to Think We Are the Defective Ones
The lies of shame tell us we are the defective ones, but truth breaks the lies of shame we believe about our self. This is post 3 in a series on shame. Lisa was going to surprise her mother by getting herself ready for church all by herself. She picked out a dress. One she could ... Read More
There is No Shame in Feeling Shame
There is no shame in feeling shame; it's just another human emotion, like anger or happiness. Shame is a warning flag that something needs dealing with. This is post 2 in a series on shame. In fifth grade I had one pair of pants. I wish they had been blue. Even brown or tan. A ... Read More
